Transform Anger

Trans­form­ing Anger into Willpower!

Anger is energy. It is a feel­ing that is a part of our emo­tional life. Anger can become your great­est enemy debil­i­tat­ing your health and pro­duc­ing neg­a­tiv­ity. When anger is under­stood and trans­formed it can become your great­est ally toward heal­ing and find­ing per­sonal peace.

Anger is one of the most mis­un­der­stood and com­monly repressed emo­tions. When you under­stand the true nature of anger, you can begin to har­ness a lost power of your will.  Will power is the key to cre­ate per­ma­nent and pos­i­tive changes in your life.  It all hinges upon how you relate to your emo­tions. Before we explore trans­form­ing anger it is impor­tant to clar­ify “pos­i­tive” and “neg­a­tive” emotions.

Emo­tions are a feed­back sys­tem offer­ing guid­ance in our daily lives. They inform us of what we need to do in order to feel secure and peace­ful. In child­hood we learned to judge our emo­tions and placed them into two cat­e­gories, pos­i­tive (good) or neg­a­tive (bad) emo­tions. We labeled any feel­ings that are con­stric­tive such as fear, guilt, and lone­li­ness as neg­a­tive and bad.  The expan­sive emo­tions like love, joy, and hap­pi­ness were iden­ti­fied as pos­i­tive (good).  The chal­lenge for you is to rede­fine your rela­tion­ship with all your emo­tions and change the way you relate to them. Here is how to do that.

You’ll expe­ri­ence an empow­ered rela­tion­ship with your emo­tions when you rede­fine them. Neg­a­tive emo­tions are any emo­tion (love or fear) that you ignore, deny, and repress. Regard­less of their names, all emo­tion becomes neg­a­tive when you refuse to feel and express them.

Even­tu­ally, all repressed emo­tion explodes into a rage, either inward or out­ward rage. It is the repres­sion of emo­tion that causes its destruc­tive­ness, not the emo­tion itself. Like­wise, love that is repressed can be just as destruc­tive as anger. Emo­tions are energy that needs to be felt and expressed respectfully.

Pos­i­tive emo­tions are any emo­tion that you honor (own), feel, express and release, appro­pri­ately. When you respect your anger as much as your love, you will have matured your emo­tional intel­li­gence and begin to take domin­ion over your life.

We’ve been brain-washed from child­hood to judge anger as a bad emo­tion. Like all emo­tions, anger is meant to be felt, expressed and released… appro­pri­ately. Repressed anger always has neg­a­tive impact in our lives. Addic­tions, worry, self-doubt, and pow­er­less­ness increase when anger is repressed. When anger is released these neg­a­tive expe­ri­ences will decrease rapidly. Also, within all anger there is a hid­den resource of willpower. The energy needed to end pro­cras­ti­na­tion and take charge of your life, can be found d when you tap into and release your anger.

How to Cre­ate a Healthy Rela­tion­ship with Anger.

It is impor­tant to rec­og­nize the value of both your con­strict­ing and expand­ing emo­tions. The pur­pose of anger is to offer you feed­back. Anger is a mes­sen­ger com­mu­ni­cat­ing to you that change is needed. For instance, if you feel angry with a per­son then some­thing about that rela­tion­ship needs to change. Per­haps you are not being respected or under­stood. Pre­tend­ing you are not angry only com­pounds the negativity.

Being hon­est with your­self is the key to har­ness­ing the power of your emo­tional nature. When you let go of your judg­ment and hon­estly feel your con­strict­ing emo­tions you’ll quickly express and release them. Then, the energy trapped inside can become a con­struc­tive force in your life.

Four Steps to Trans­form Repressed Anger into Willpower:

The 1st Step: Take respon­si­bil­ity for your anger (own it) and begin to feel it. This allows you to con­nect with it and begin trans­form­ing it into a pos­i­tive expe­ri­ence. By real­iz­ing this sim­ple truth you can begin to lift anger out of its destruc­tive and repressed state.

The 2nd Step: Express your anger in writ­ing. Take some paper and write at the top of the page, “Me and My Anger”. Write the first thing that comes to your mind about anger. Write in a free asso­ci­a­tion style. Don’t worry about gram­mar, sen­tence struc­ture or spelling. Express your anger by writ­ing down your thoughts and feelings.

For exam­ple you might start to write: “This exer­cise is stu­pid. I don’t believe I’m doing this! Try­ing to write down my anger is so frus­trat­ing… I feel stuck, like I’m back in fourth grade… blah, blah, blah.”

Let the thoughts and feel­ings roll out of you! Don’t assess or judge your words. This may feel awk­ward at first, but soon it will start to flow out of you in a stream of con­scious­ness. Before you know it, you’ll tap into the anger trapped inside your sub­con­scious mind and release it.

After 20–45 min­utes the con­strict­ing feel­ings will shift and lift to a peace­ful feel­ing inside of you. When that hap­pens destroy the paper, tear it up, burn it or flush it down the toi­let. Next take a break and go do some­thing you enjoy. Relax in a hot bath, go for a walk, enjoy your favorite movie, do some­thing fun. This will help you lift beyond these feel­ing into a more expan­sive space. Give your­self at least 2 hours and up to 24 hours to relax before you move on to the third step.

The 3rd Step: Express your anger imag­i­na­tively. This is an impor­tant step to free your mind. It involves using your imag­i­na­tion to unhook the neg­a­tiv­ity from your sub­con­scious mind. Your sub­con­scious mind does not know the dif­fer­ence between some­thing you imag­ine and some­thing that really happens.

For exam­ple: Have you ever sat in a movie the­atre and watched scary images on the screen that caused you to tighten up with fear and become anx­ious? Log­i­cally, you knew you were safe because you were sur­rounded by a hun­dred other peo­ple.  How­ever, your sub­con­scious mind didn’t dis­tin­guish the images on the screen from what was really hap­pen­ing to you. This is how the body-mind con­nec­tion works.  Your sub­con­scious mind doesn’t know the dif­fer­ence between what you imag­ine and what phys­i­cally hap­pens to you. Your sub­con­scious mind reacts the same in both situations.

Guided Imagery Tech­nique to Release Repressed Anger

Close your eyes and imag­ine the per­son that you are angry at stand­ing before you. This per­son may have died long ago it might be a boss, a par­ent, some­one who pissed you off.  Tell them in your mind how angry and upset you are. If you need to act it out, then act it out– imag­i­na­tively! If you were so angry you could have kicked and spit on them, then in your imag­i­na­tion, kick and spit on them!  Play it out. Now is your chance to vent the pent up energy from your sub­con­scious mind! Don’t hold back. The more vivid you imag­ine this with hon­est feel­ings, the more effec­tive it will be.

Tip: If it is dif­fi­cult for you to express old anger from your child­hood then let your inner child express their feel­ings.  Let the angry part of you, your child, ado­les­cent or teenager express the feel­ings they had never released.

You may be wor­ried that if you vent your anger in med­i­ta­tion, you’re some­how send­ing neg­a­tive energy to the per­son. Remem­ber, your inten­tion is where energy flows. Your inten­tion is to trans­form anger into a pos­i­tive energy. Once your sub­con­scious mind has vented your anger, you can eas­ily for­give and let go. Let the angry part of you act out the feel­ings don’t hold your­self back. Honor the angry part of you and it will set you free.

The 4th Step: For­give who­ever angered you.  For­give them and let them go. Again, you can do this in your imag­i­na­tion, sim­ply imag­ine them in your mind and tell them, “I for­give you.”  I am let­ting you go. You don’t have to talk to them phys­i­cally but you can effec­tively for­give them in your mind, where it really mat­ters.  For­give­ness will come eas­ily once the anger has cleared from your mind.

If you have dif­fi­culty for­giv­ing them, then go back and see if there is more anger you still need to release. Once you have for­given them and your­self (for attract­ing this neg­a­tive expe­ri­ence) decide what pos­i­tive energy you’d like to expe­ri­ence more of in your life. Do you desire greater self-determination, dis­ci­pline, and cre­ativ­ity? Visu­al­ize how you want to feel and be. Imag­ine your­self back in the flow, empow­ered and feel­ing great with a renewed abil­ity to be focused, pro­duc­tive and creative

Tip: Read my arti­cle on For­give­ness

When you release repressed anger you auto­mat­i­cally strengthen your inner power.  Your life becomes full and rich with greater love, hap­pi­ness and peace. You’ll feel more in charge of your­self and your life. The more anger you feel and release the more clear, happy and alive you will be. Your health can improve rapidly and you will have an unstop­pable will power to cre­ate the changes in your life you’ve always wanted.

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